A letter to me - meant to be read again on my wedding day.
Written 1/17/2014
Hi Sam,
Wow. Here we are. Our wedding day. Did you ever think this day would come? Because let me tell you, in case you don't remember. Your 22 year old self didn't! Who knew we'd finally find a flower in all of these weeds?
No, really. Now that I'm not biased about who this guy is, I'm going to tell you what he better be. Because let's be honest with ourselves: We deserve it. And for us, saying that is really hard. We're modest - we give and we give and we never receive. It's just what we're used to - it's how we are.
First off, Sam, he better be nice to you. If there is any moment in time where you feel unwanted or not good enough, he isn't good enough for you. We deserve to feel number one in somebody's life, because I know that if we are willing to spend our life with this man, there is absolutely no doubt that he will come first before everything in ours.
Next, I hope he makes us feel alive. Excited. Adventurous. He better be willing to grow with you and experience life with you, making life something to experience, not just happen.
Also, he better make you laugh. We know better than anybody that we think our laugh is annoying and stupid, but we really like to do it. Whether he tells cheesy jokes, tickles you, quotes movies and songs in mid-conversation, or does one of his "things" that gets you every time - you know you love it. I want that for you so bad.
Next, is he worth making babies with? I mean, not the making part, but the afterwards? Can you count on him to give you ice cream whenever you want and to deal with your constant whining when that time actually comes? Let's be real here, Sam - nobody likes a complainer, but we sure are good at it when it comes to not feeling well. I wonder what pregnancy will be like. Oh my god, I'm 22. I'm going to stop now. Anyways, he better be good.
Marriage isn't something we take lightly, Sam. We know that we come from a line full of divorce. If you're standing there today with this guy, I know he means something to you. I know you know he's the one. If he weren't the total package, I know you wouldn't be there - no matter the circumstances. He really must be special... I hope in my 22-year-old time, I meet him really soon!
Now now... enough about him. What about you? We both know we're a great girlfriend, but will you be a great wife? Can he count on you for meals every night? Will you give him a massage whenever he wants? Will you do his laundry, wear fancy underwear every night, know exactly what to say after he has a bad day at work, and always let him pick the movie you're going to watch on TV?
Of course not. But I know you can promise him this. I know you can promise to make every day he comes home to you a decision he never regrets. That he can count on you to always listen - whether it's about an inside joke you will never really understand or it's about the worst day ever at the office. That he can always be sure that whenever he's not with you, you're thinking of him. That no matter what comes your way, at the end of the day, you love him; he's your husband and you're not going anywhere. Unfortunately for him, he picked one hell of a girl to get married to.
Husband, I love you. And I can't wait to spend my life with you.
Love,
Your 22-year-old wife.
Written 1/17/2014
Hi Sam,
Wow. Here we are. Our wedding day. Did you ever think this day would come? Because let me tell you, in case you don't remember. Your 22 year old self didn't! Who knew we'd finally find a flower in all of these weeds?
No, really. Now that I'm not biased about who this guy is, I'm going to tell you what he better be. Because let's be honest with ourselves: We deserve it. And for us, saying that is really hard. We're modest - we give and we give and we never receive. It's just what we're used to - it's how we are.
First off, Sam, he better be nice to you. If there is any moment in time where you feel unwanted or not good enough, he isn't good enough for you. We deserve to feel number one in somebody's life, because I know that if we are willing to spend our life with this man, there is absolutely no doubt that he will come first before everything in ours.
Next, I hope he makes us feel alive. Excited. Adventurous. He better be willing to grow with you and experience life with you, making life something to experience, not just happen.
Also, he better make you laugh. We know better than anybody that we think our laugh is annoying and stupid, but we really like to do it. Whether he tells cheesy jokes, tickles you, quotes movies and songs in mid-conversation, or does one of his "things" that gets you every time - you know you love it. I want that for you so bad.
Next, is he worth making babies with? I mean, not the making part, but the afterwards? Can you count on him to give you ice cream whenever you want and to deal with your constant whining when that time actually comes? Let's be real here, Sam - nobody likes a complainer, but we sure are good at it when it comes to not feeling well. I wonder what pregnancy will be like. Oh my god, I'm 22. I'm going to stop now. Anyways, he better be good.
Marriage isn't something we take lightly, Sam. We know that we come from a line full of divorce. If you're standing there today with this guy, I know he means something to you. I know you know he's the one. If he weren't the total package, I know you wouldn't be there - no matter the circumstances. He really must be special... I hope in my 22-year-old time, I meet him really soon!
Now now... enough about him. What about you? We both know we're a great girlfriend, but will you be a great wife? Can he count on you for meals every night? Will you give him a massage whenever he wants? Will you do his laundry, wear fancy underwear every night, know exactly what to say after he has a bad day at work, and always let him pick the movie you're going to watch on TV?
Of course not. But I know you can promise him this. I know you can promise to make every day he comes home to you a decision he never regrets. That he can count on you to always listen - whether it's about an inside joke you will never really understand or it's about the worst day ever at the office. That he can always be sure that whenever he's not with you, you're thinking of him. That no matter what comes your way, at the end of the day, you love him; he's your husband and you're not going anywhere. Unfortunately for him, he picked one hell of a girl to get married to.
Husband, I love you. And I can't wait to spend my life with you.
Love,
Your 22-year-old wife.
